After a lot of few things that matters

The journey of this life is such....

Reminiscense of the past events can be normal....rather some can be heartfelt which could cause sadness, anger, frustrations, bitterness (and the list goes on...) OR rather brings back that 'smile' that you once had thinking of the events...joy, happiness, that love or loving feelings...

Challenges came in different 'faces'....testing your patients, intuitions, guts, and to the extend....it could be 'something mysterious' to say or even understand...

Yet, as a human we all must go on our life with our own tests...or could it be called 'fate'?

Alas, fate can be changed....yes, we can always 'plan' and 'make our best' for our own fate...

Or is it really we can change fate...or it is fated to be that way? Well, put an apple and orange in a plate...for situation A - we choose to eat apple and for situation B - we choose to eat orange. Thus, 'fate' is more of the 'choices' we made. I guess. Yes, I believe so.

In life, sometimes something should be left unspoken...common thing we heard some people say....it is better to leave it that way.

Yes, indeed, sometimes in certain situation, it is better to just leave it there...and to just walk away.

Learning to be patient can be challenging indeed....what I learned, if you feel that you can't forgive, just think of it like you put 'matters of the past' in a box....no anger, frustrations, just no forgiveness...then put it aside and move on with life. Maybe how I'm dealing with this is not what most people advise. People say, forgive then you can forget. But for me, forgiveness deserve its dignity...it is expensive and exclusive, only to be given to those who ask for it. Plus, it is a form of 'justice' for us to keep. Therefore, I'm the type when it comes to big things, I have tried to forgive, but I can't move on....I keep on feeling angry and upset by it. Funny how this works on me. So, I try to forgive many times about a few things that matters....somehow, just doesn't work for me. Plus, I take it as a 'free ticket' I better not let go....a 'ticket' for a better life ahead.

After a lot of few things that matters....you can separate some bad experience to be no longer matters indeed and better of to non-existance in your life space.

XOXO ~ til I write again soon :) Sweet dreams.

Best Friends

Assalamualaikum wbt...

The meaning of 'best friends'....

There are many things in life...that we are fortunate and should be thankful about. One of them is having great 'best friends' who loves you for who you are and always be there for you...

Of course, along our journey of life, we grow up either at the same place...or at few different places. Both also gives us many chances to make new friends and we tend to find some friends can be classified as our best friends for life...

I don't know about you guys, maybe you are the type that is bless with 'real best friends for life' which you had bonded since you were small. Grow up in the same town, go to the same kindergarten, primary, high school, college, uni, etc. Maybe some of you tend to keep different best friends group of different stage in life...let say, best friends since high school...best friends since college or university years or best friends since you just started working in the same company or just started doing the same business even...

What ever it is, it is lucky indeed if your 'friendships bonding' are lasting and going strong with many good things to share with. After all, life is nicer with many more laughters, different heads to share opinions with and of course shoulders to cry on...

For me, yes I had many stages of best friends in life...my journey in my life has made quite a lot of twist and turns...blessed with many good persons I had met, and some still keeping in touch and some are out of touch...eventhough at some points in life used to be best friends...

 

 

Perhaps, I am quite restricting myself on sharing a lot of personal stories with what I call good friends....I choose carefully what to share. Often times, I don't prefer to tell much about personal matters especially of any problems...rather hard to trust anybody too much. This is because I like to find ways to solve my own problems. Usually, things that happen in my life, I hardly see them as problems...I simply turns all out to be as my 'tests' in life...how to solve this, so then I think of solutions. 

Through out this life journey...I found that, there is no problems actually in life. It is just us who likes to think of them as such....Everything has its own solutions, either it can be done fast or it will take a bit more time....

Thus the REAL 'best friends' in life for me is of course Allah swt. For he is the real problems solver. Then, the Holy Quran that will save us and be with us until the judgement day and forever in Jannah. Our prophet Muhammad SAW pbuh who will save us. Our religion Islam...our Solat...which we should think of it our most important 'best friends' so that we can do, perform everything well. Our fastings...and all of our Sadqa...good deeds with sincere heart. Our loving family, Parents importantly, who loves us dearly, raised us, and wish the best for us sincerely. Then only the 'real good friends' who leads us towards 'jannah' and successfully rich life come into the picture. Of course if you are married, your husband or wife, hopefully we are lucky to have a 'great person' for a lifetime. 

 

Yes, lessons to be learned....love Allah SWT the most, then learn to love yourself first, before you can learn to love others. Only share certain things in life with persons you can trust, but not to trust fully....for sometimes, persons you love the most, might turn out to be the persons you should be cautious the most. Just love sincerely, but do it moderately. It takes basic scanning to select your true best friends, love those who love Allah, and love you because of Allah. Then that persons will know how to respects you because of Allah. 

Minggle with the smart, you become smart....mingle with the rich, you become rich....mingle with the stupid, you become stupid....mingle with good persons, you become good person....  mingle with smart, successful, rich, good type of friends, eventually you will become one. 

Maintain your energy, your focus, and most of all, ask from Allah.... there is a popular saying, "you will get what you seek, for what you seek is seeking for you too...." and "becareful what you wish for, for it may become true...!" Wallahualam. In this case, I prefer to ask Allah to bring the best of what I am seeking for what I like, need, love in life which will last forever indeed....aameen. It is up to him, for everything belongs to him, all we can do is make prayers, wishes, doa and works towards our ambitions. Let Allah do the rest, we must always asks for the best! Remember, "positive thinking" is the key. It is good to dreams, and it is better to have good dreams right? It is always better to have 'nicer' pictures on the walls.....pictures of beautiful dream homes, better best friends for life, beautiful dream cars, luxurious stuffs, a lot of good money from our success, beautiful clothes, make-ups, jewelries, diamonds, luxurious hotels, travels, branded items etc. for everything is possible, when Allah says 'be'. These are your tools for you to be more motivated to be and have what you want in life!

Remember in the Holy Quran, Allah SWT keeps on reminding us to keep on asking him, and he loves those who likes to ask a lot and keep on asking of anything that we wish for in life....and in every Azan (call upon prayers) Allah SWT keeps on reminding us to seek for success! For me, Azan is a direct reminder of success and a 'voice' of motivations from Allah to us. This shows how Allah SWT wants all of us to be and have success in life and be a great successful persons (rich, wealthy) who leads life in balance! 

DREAM BIG, BE HAPPY!